At 23, I’m glad to say I only have 4 close friends. I’ve figured out what some people don’t learn until like age 30: not everyone is your friend.
Thing is… my friends…
Well. They are the realest. In all aspects in my life, my friends are helpful in guiding me to greatness (or pettiness, depends on the day).
The things I am looking for when foundation shopping these days.
When I need advice getting my grown woman on.
Or just a quick uterus check in between shopping for Christmas gifts:
And we aren’t here for the new “best” friends:
They share their vision with me…even if I don’t always “see” it:
But we don’t always agree:
But ya know, hatas gonna hate (hate. hate. hate. hate).
No matter what though, they are always amazingly supportive:
Ugh– I love those ladies.
So the reason I wanted to post this today outside of the fact is that we all need a good laugh after this past weekend, was to start a discussion about love. I talk about “enjoying my own company” quite a bit but I do not want downplay the importance of having a great support system.
One great thing about my friend group is there is a person for everything, a person to call for toddler drama, a person for my intellectual struggles with society, a person for my “let me tell you every gross detail” stories, and a person for my “boy” troubles. Of course all of them fall into my petty gossip group and my “I just need to cry, pretend like you can make out what I am saying” group.
The people you are friends with should be people that you both respect and admire. Basically, if I woke up tomorrow and I was one of these women for a day, I’d be happy. These women have all built lives for themselves IN THEIR TWENTIES, that deserve recognition. I keep a very small circle and I make it a point to have people in my life that encourage me without words. Their drive and success motivates me. That’s important!
It is essential to have people that you can break down around and they don’t just see you as a broken person that they are constantly having to rebuild. The people in my life are my insurance that I will never FULLY break. My friends are like my teammates that are helping me limp off the field and while I am on the bench they are out fighting for me. They are able to tell me when I am wrong and they are my push when I am right and on the right path.
Over the years I have learned that if you truly love yourself inside and out and treat yourself with the love and respect you deserve, it is hard to find people who love you the way that you love you. People who will put you first when its necessary not because you are helpless but because YOU DESERVE IT. Those are my friends. Thank you fwends.
So while it is nice to be good on your own be careful not to be that person who is against the world. Make sure you are being this friend for other people, try not to get too wrapped up in your own shit. Selfishness is necessary every once in a while, but make sure your friends know that you appreciate them, love them, need them, and are happy to have them.
In other news…
Thinking of updating the “feedback from fi” and putting it on its own tab on the site. so that is what I have been working on along with some other crazy little projects.
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